Failure, and the fear of it, can really tie us in knots if we let it. I think it’s because we don’t understand what it is.

It’s generally thought to be a lack of success; not achieving the thing you set out to do. But I disagree. To me, there’s only one way to fail and that is to stop going after the thing you really want.

If what you want changes and you switch goals, you haven’t failed. You’ve pivoted. If you keep trying to achieve one goal but don’t, you haven’t failed. You’ve learned what didn’t work. You’ve ruled something out, and in doing so, have gotten one step closer to your goal.

When we look at it that way, it’s actually quite hard to fail.

About the author 

Valerie Francis

Valerie Francis is a bestselling author, literary editor, and podcaster with a passion for stories by, for and about women.

Each month, Valerie recommends books from literature’s best female authors. Selections come from every genre because women write, and read, in every genre. The Women’s Fiction category offers up some terrific novels, but these days there’s a strong female presence in thriller, horror, crime, and other genres traditionally dominated by male writers. No matter what the publishing companies may think, in the 21st Century, Women’s Fiction is whatever we want it to be.

stories for women, by women, and about women